Just took the quizzes (caveat emptor indeed, heheh). Top scores every time had either "quality of time" or "acts of services" alternately, with two of three as "quality of time."

The last test had a numerical rating on the different forms of love and I've rearranged them in order (the higher the number, the higher the preference): 12 Quality Time. 7 Acts of Service. 5 Receiving of Gifts. 3 Physical Touch. 3 Words of Affirmation.

My abuse background included heavy mental and emotional abuse from family (plus physical abuse and suspected sexual abuse by them), as well as sexual and mental abuse when I was older by non-relatives. Lately I've been dating this man who I like mentally tremendously, emotionally pretty highly, but physical and verbal flirtatious I find triggering because of his specific style and mannerisms, which I haven't been able to clearly pinpoint. In fact, just last night (Thursday) I came back from a night out with him and he was unwittingly triggering me a lot again; I haven't been able to talk to him about these things, but I am definitely withdrawing from him slowly. With him and the evening in mind, even just *reading* a lot of the options involving physical touch (which to me triggers me due to sometimes sexual implications) was very mildly triggering just considering the individual questions.

With someone I know well and trust, I can handle physical touch pretty easily, especially if it's non-sexual. With other people in a sexual situation, physical or sexual contact isn't always triggering, but I usually have a sense of emotional withdrawal or mentally "psyche" myself up to deal with it, or I just mentally numb as it's going on.

I clearly do have issues of expressing and accepting "love." To be honest, I really don't know if I understand what "love" is, beyond feeling comfortable and happy with someone and looking forward to spending more time with them. I also have problems, at times, knowing if this "love" is platonic or sexual.